Who's an inbox tease?

(Originally posted on that "OK Stupid" site.)

Sorry that I haven't written in a while. You know how crazy things can get. I still think about you often, however. I mean just last week, I was saying to my other blog, "Y'know, OKC would really get a kick out of this...," and then I saw a shiny object or a video about a dog dressed up as an AT AT or something, and it slipped my mind again. But my lack of writing here has gotten me wondering about other messages I'm (not) sending...

Why do you not reply to messages in your Inbox on here?

I mean, what's your real excuse? Mine boils down to the fact that I honestly do not get alerts emailed to me, despite my selecting that preference and attempting to get this site to fix it several times now. No avail... not even in my Spam folder. And so I'm left to check in here to find out what's waiting for me.

But this isn't a site that I think about checking often, and messages here seem to run in deluges and dryspells. So after looking around here for a couple days and coming up zilch in the interest department, this site becomes a lower priority. Next thing you know, several days go by... maybe a week even... and then I finally sign in only to find a dozen or more messages.

Suddenly, what should be exciting feels like a chore. I know I shouldn't be complaining at all, because people wanting to talk to you is waaaaay better than people treating you like a leper... but somehow a positive becomes a negative and you end up with that "too much of a good thing" feeling. Then the thought of even reading everything makes me go from insomniac to narcoleptic like that *snap!*

I think I may have caught what is sometimes called "holiday malaise"... not to be confused with any of the many traditional sauces or toppings for the extravagant meals everyone starts consuming around this time of year. At least I know I'm not alone in the holiday malaise. Several single friends have mentioned that they just cannot "get it up" to go on any dates or meet new people until after the holidays pass.

And if I'm not replying "often," then what reflection does that give me? I mean, I kind of feel like if I do reply "often," then it would look like I'm either easy to please or have way too much time on my hands.

But if I'm replying "infrequently" or whatever the term is, do I look like an uppity snob? I know I'm rambling, but that's because looking at my Inbox just now has made me feel the urge to hit the sack again, which is not a bad idea, since it's now after 3am here.

This inaction will likely intensify whatever negative color symbol it is that they put on the profiles of "highly selective" folks... making my communications "Amber alert" turn red... even though anyone looking into my past dating history would know instantly that "highly selective" is certainly not the right term for me.

It's holiday malaise, I tell ya. Meh. Lay. Z.

How 'bout you?